We outgrow things.
Whether clothing or hair styles, the way we decorate, the music we listen to.
Or, on a deeper level, our ways of expressing and communicating, where one way no longer suits us or works for us.
Sometimes a life circumstance, a work or family situation takes a turn in a direction we least expect, and yet it reveals to us the changes that are occurring at the core level that we may simply be unaware of.
But that doesn't make the situation any easier. In fact, that's what can make life most challenging.
We must reckon with our changing circumstances, discerning why this change has taken place.
Often our first response to these kinds of changes is resistance. Especially when we're dealing with some kind of loss that directly hits our core life experience. These can be the hardest to grapple with.
One thing to always remember when you've outgrown something but didn't know it is to be gentle with yourself in the process of this unexpected life change. Don't beat yourself up over what you didn't know, what you didn't do, or what you wish you didn't do.
As we outgrow, we learn more deeply about who we really are. These revelations can show us things that are essential to know and move with.
Sometimes it doesn't make sense, and it takes time to fully comprehend what has happened. Don't be upset with yourself if you don't understand this new life experience that has thrown you into a tail spin.
Just take a deep breath (or two or three) and see with new eyes what this change now means to you.
Who are you now with this change? How are you different than you were before the change? What have you learned, what valuable lesson do you take from this change? What would you do differently had you known the change was coming?
Now accept the fact that this change has come because it was time. As hard as it is to reckon with that fact, sometimes we have to see the "writing on the wall" when it comes to some things, especially if we've been hanging onto something longer than we should have, than what would have been better for us in the long run.
Yes, our hearts may ache for that change we feel we weren't ready for. But we also must recognize when it's time, when we can now move forward toward who we really are and not who we were that we've outgrown.
When we choose to let go, to release ourselves from hanging on to what no longer serves our greater good, we will find peace, a new center that reflects our authenticity right this moment.
You will know it and feel it; it will sink into your soul. It may be bittersweet, but it will bring you to a richer, more centered place, a Place that has great meaning and significance to you. You may not see what that significance may be exactly for you right now, but it will come.
You will recognize its truth, and it will have great value.
As if you knew all along.
When it's time, it's the right time.
© 2013 By Dawn Herring
Dawn engages in many roles, from Writer and Artist to Creative Visionary and Social Media Director, basing her Strategies from her vast experience as award-winning, life-long artist and Host of #JournalChat Live for all things journaling on social media, offering encouragement and information to other journal keepers. Dawn's focus is on journal keeping, artistic expression, positive change, and personal empowerment leading you to leave your authentic and positive mark in the world. Dawn is a watercolor and collage artist, daily doodler and writer and enjoys sharing insights, humor, and encouragement as she shares from her life experiences as a woman, wife, mother of two grown daughters and as a Skip-Generation Grandparent to a special needs grandson. She enjoys keeping a journal and reading spiritual texts to help keep the light on. Have a fab day and may joy find you in the most unexpected places.