Welcome back to The Way I See It, where we focus on Awareness, Attitude and Intuition for more confident decision making and aligned living!

In this post/episode (7), My aim is to give you strategies to Give Yourself a Voice, especially when you feel unheard.

We all know that it’s perfectly normal to talk to ourselves in our daily lives. Picture arriving in your kitchen and forgetting why you went there! So you say to yourself, “What was I in here for?” as you stand there puzzling for the momentary forgetfulness. Yes, we’ve all been there, done that!

Technically speaking, you were giving yourself a voice even if it was not in the best of circumstances, since you were probably feeling frustrated with your loss of purpose.
But we can be much more intentional with the way we talk to ourselves, which is actually a very important element of personal empowerment.

We all have situations where we have shared our point of view, the way we see it, to another, whether in conversation with a friend or loved one, with a colleague or a boss, or with our kids or grandkids. And in some situations, we feel like we keep repeating ourselves, because no one seems to be listening. And that can be frustrating. No one likes to feel unheard.

But I would like to share an important practice that we can all engage in that can enable us to have a voice and in the process, validate and affirm ourselves from the inside out, even when no one seems to be listening.

I believe it is imperative that we listen to ourselves, our higher voice that speaks to us, that voice of intuition. And one of the ways we can do that is to give that voice our attention. How?
Well, I’m here to share with you my tried and true approaches to doing just that.

First, My absolute go-to is keeping a journal. My journal is the perfect place to give myself a voice, even if it’s only written. My thoughts are important and when I write them down, it gives them presence more so in my life because I have honored those thoughts in word form. Now I can see and read what I am thinking, and even vocalize them if I choose to. In this way, I am honoring The Way I See It. It gives me a chance to share my point of view from my varying life lenses that give meaning and purpose to my every day existence.

Along with sharing my thoughts in word form, I also choose to draw an illustration that reflects my emotional response to something from my day that I choose to highlight. It’s sort of like a visual diary that I can look back on and see what I have experienced, no matter what emotion is represented, whether it be frustration, anger, elation, joy, happiness, humor. It is all equally represented. You could choose to simply draw a smiley face or a frown face or whatever intuitively works for you if you don’t want to draw how you feel in an illustrative approach.

Another way I choose to give myself a voice is through verbal affirmations. I have reminders that come up on my phone on a daily basis, and when I see them, I often read them aloud. It brings me into the present moment and inspires me to remind myself of what I am. Whether it be strong, resilient, creative, present, etc. Pick words that have relevant meaning for you and read them aloud.

The mirror can be our best friend; we can simply look into our own eyes and say, “I love you!” This is a tremendously empowering action to give yourself a voice and to validate and affirm yourself, both visually and audibly.

Music is one of my favorite ways to give myself a voice; and this one is especially meaningful because I express my appreciation for my Connection with Spirit when I write songs inspired by my study of sacred text and reflect on what it means to me. From lyrics to melody and then composing my songs on piano, and then singing as I play, I give my Spirit a voice as well. This is one of the most satisfying experiences I have on a daily basis.

Perhaps you may choose to write a lyric, a poem, a paragraph of something meaningful to you; then read it aloud. Relish each word as you speak it; knowing that it came from your heart and soul. Or choose your favorite song and sing with enthusiasm! You might want to dance as you sing, giving your body a voice as well.

I think one of the things that is so vitally important and linked to giving yourself a voice is recognizing your innate value; appreciating yourself for who you are.
Listening to yourself, giving yourself a voice, is a powerful way to recognize the value of what you have to offer, of The Way You See It. When you listen to yourself first with appreciation, honor and love, this will give you a strong foundation, and a more distinct confidence when you relate and communicate with others. Because you are already listening. Your ears are open and aware of what you are feeling, and how you want to express yourself.

Always remember that when you feel unheard, to give yourself a voice immediately by listening to your own thoughts and expression in whatever way feels right and natural to you in the moment. When you regularly practice giving yourself a voice, you will always be heard; this will impact the way you communicate with others. Because The Way You See It Matters.

A Journaling prompt for you:
Write a list of all the ways you could give yourself a voice, whether by word, or audibly, or in whatever way comes you to intuitively. Don’t dismiss any as silly or irrelevant. Just write them down as they come to you. Think of it as a brainstorm of affirming activity. Then choose one of those ways and do one right now! The more you engage with your own voice, the more you will appreciate it!
Now record an entry about the last time you felt unheard. What were the circumstances and what were you trying to convey? Express appreciation for The Way You See It in that situation and read your entry aloud. You may want to speak an affirmation aloud to yourself, such as The Way I See It Matters! My opinion and point of view have value.

Always Give Yourself a Voice; because you deserve to be heard.

Welcome back to The Way I See It, the place where we talk about Awareness, Attitude and Intuition, and how, with these Three Keys in our power pack, it helps us to gain more confidence in our decision making which leads to more aligned living! And that’s exciting to think about and experience, isn’t it?

For this post/podcast which I have titled, Saying Goodbye, I would like to talk about Life Cycles, how to recognize when one cycle is ending and another is beginning, and ways that I try to make it as gentle and seamless as possible, which is no easy feat!

First let’s talk about what a life cycle can look like. It can cover many facets of life, from where we live, to what job we have, to moving our residence including upsizing or downsizing, getting married or divorced, dealing with individual relationships, or even how we spend our leisure time.

We are always in a cycle of sorts, whether it’s just beginning or one we’ve been in for a while. There are natural ebbs and flows with each cycle. But how do we know when we’ve been in a cycle and the longevity is waning because it’s no longer serving us or our life circumstances have changed?

Sometimes life hands us an abrupt change that we didn’t see coming. Like having a rental home sold out from under you and you’re left to find another place to live and where you’ve been is no longer affordable? Or a major job change that brings you to an area you’ve never been to and you know no one, and are feeling isolated? Or perhaps, you’re in a place where you’ve just entered the role of single mom because the relationship with your significant other became toxic. Or maybe you’ve just entered a whole new neuro-divergent world with a diagnosis of autism in your child and you feel lost and uncertain about what the future holds.

There are some cycles in life that last for many years, such as a long standing marriage of 50+ or living in the same house for your entire married life or living in the same neighborhood even from childhood.

But what about those situations that last only a few years or even a few months? Perhaps a friendship becomes disconnected because your interests have change or one moved away and the distance creates a void. Or maybe you’ve been a full time caretaker of a special needs person and someone else takes over; or your spouse is in the last stages of an illness, and it’s time to say goodbye.

We could also look at each day, each month, or even each task as a cycle, which just shows the natural ebbs and flows that we can experience.

We can also look at our creative output cycles. Perhaps how change occurs as we paint, draw, sing, play an instrument, write books, or blog posts, or host a podcast? Sometimes, as we change, our content changes with us. 

Now that we’ve looked at all the types of cycles we may encounter in our life time, let’s talk about how we can recognize the signs of when one cycle ends and another begins.
Sometimes it can be really tricky to know. Other times it can be really obvious.

This is where AWARENESS is so key. The more we can sustain an active awareness concerning where we are in a cycle, the more readily we will be able to see the signs of when a cycle is coming to a close. Sometimes it just happens naturally and we just need to move intuitively through the process. Other cycles are ones we create for ourselves; this is when we have to be more proactive about recognizing when the cycle we are in is no longer serving us, especially when we feel out of alignment because of it.

One of the things that really helps me in dealing with a cycle that is waning is to feel into my body about what’s happening. What emotions am I feeling? Am I more frustrated than usual? Do I feel blocked? Am I agitated and wonder why? Do I feel resistance rather than flow?

It can be helpful to write down how you’re feeling, whether on a piece of paper or in a journal, depending on whether what you write will be preserved or tossed. Sometimes just getting it out on the page can give you just the right clarity in the moment to recognize a changing cycle that you weren’t already aware of.

Now I’d like to address how we can let go of an old cycle (even if it’s a short one) in order to embrace the new one that is beginning. This can be especially difficult to navigate when it’s a big change, such as caring for a loved one that required a lot of time and energy, or making a big move across the country. That’s why I titled this Saying Goodbye. It’s important to look at the cycle that is ending and see all the benefits you have experienced from that time. In a sense, it gives you the opportunity to honor your life’s experience and how it helped make you who you are today.

And as you do this, you can begin to say goodbye in a way that is gentle, kind and compassionate, toward yourself especially, which is vitally important! And as you do this, it enables you to tap into that intuitive wisdom that you need to guide you into what is next for you in that new cycle that is just beginning.

I will say that it can be very hard to let go…especially when you’ve taken on responsibilities that were challenging. It can sometimes feel like you’re in a free fall, which can feel disorienting and even overwhelming. Thus the gentle awareness can help us ease into that next place, as we open our hands and let go of what is no longer necessary or essential for us to do or have.

And we can celebrate how we have grown into who we are today that makes what is coming next possible, which helps us to fully align and move into that place with more ease and grace, with the least amount of resistance and stress possible.

Yes, I notice that sometimes when I’m in the process of letting go of an older cycle, I may experience a bit (or a lot!) of grief or sadness. But I remind myself that opening my hands to let go of what was (sometime I do this literally with my hands; it helps ground me in the present moment) can then lead to receiving what is to come, what is literally at the door of the new cycle that is beginning! And that’s worth celebrating!

I find when I get stuck in my head concerning the ending of one cycle and the beginning of another, the logistics can really slow me down and give me a feeling of powerlessness. So I have to remind myself that I don’t need to know all the details just yet. If I received everything I think I needed to know now, that would truly be overwhelming and completely unnecessary. Gentle beginnings can help us take it in one step at a time. And each step we take is worth celebrating as we Say Goodbye to what was and begin to Say Hello to what is new! And as you do this, I celebrate with you!

A journaling prompt for you:
Take a moment to record life cycles that you are currently in right now, from relationships to jobs to hobbies to family dynamics to how old you are. This will help you activate awareness with where you may be in a cycle. Do you see or feel any signs of a cycle coming to a close? How do you feel about this? Are you ready to release the old and embrace the new? Do you know where you want to go?
Also, you can note down what cycles you have more direct control over versus those that are more outward circumstances that you simply have to work with.
Now pick one of those cycles and determine how you can make the change as gentle and compassionate toward yourself as possible. You may want to write a letter in your journal to that cycle that is closing, highlighting the ways it has benefitted you and helped you grow in various aspects of life.
It can also help to pace yourself with your to dos or giving yourself space to create to unload pent up emotion.
And remember to celebrate all that you have experienced and honor who you are today as a result of having lived that life cycle. You deserve it!